Wendy met her husband when she was 17 and had her first child at 19. Feeling trapped in her life, Wendy says she doesn't want to be married, she doesn't want to be a mother, and she wishes she were 21 instead of 25. "I would be willing to give up a sure thing with my marriage to move in with Mike to give us a try."
"Any confusion with that at all?" asks Dr. Phil. Mike says there is no confusion, it is crystal clear. "There are two reasons I agreed to do this," says Dr. Phil. "Because when they brought me this story, I said, 'No, thank you. I don't want to deal with this.' Then they said, 'Just read it.' And then when I read through it, I saw that you [Wendy] have two sons, age 1 and age 6."
"Yes," says Wendy.
"That's why I'm talking to you. Because you have two sons and your two sons don't have a voice here. They don't have the ability to say, 'Hey mom, what the hell are you thinking woman? We've got a family here. We have a life here and you're wanting to run off with some guy who's telling you he's gay and he doesn't want to have what you're going after.' And you're saying, 'I don't care. I will chuck it all to take a chance that I can change this.' Does that seem reasonable and rational to you?" Dr. Phil asks Wendy.
Wendy admits that it doesn't.
He adds, "Friends have their friend's interests at heart. And if he was your best friend, he would be telling you, 'Look, you have no future with me, and if I'm confusing you in any way then let me clear that up.' Because you said you're like the real world "Will and Grace"? That's a sitcom. This is the real life and there are two children here that are going to pick up the tab for this behavior."
Dr. Phil addresses Mike: "If you really care about her, you'll clear up the confusion here and you'll stop holding hands and playing house and stop kissing and hugging and pretending that you're together when you're not."
He turns to Wendy: "You have a husband and two children, and if you feel trapped and not happy there, then what you need to do is go get some marital counseling. And you need to work to resolve those issues."