"Yup

I Screwed Up!": Yausmenda"
When Yausmenda met a man who said he wanted to marry her and support her, she dropped everything and decided to move to Atlanta for him. By the time she got there, he had changed his mind and she had spent her savings.


She's trying to get her life back together, but he still calls saying, "I still love you baby girl...I miss you baby girl...I want to marry you. You're the one I want to be with for the rest of my life."


Dr. Phil can't believe Yausmenda still talks to him on the phone.

 

"I don't know how to stop it," she says. "He still calls. And yes, I do love him still ... I don't know how to get over it."


There are two words that could solve the problem, Dr. Phil says: "Hang up."

"Let me tell you how you screwed up: You invested more than you can afford to lose," Dr. Phil says. "The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior. If he led you on and then brushed you off before, he'll do it again. This needs to be what we call one-trial learning. This is like sticking your hand in a blender. How many times do you have to do that? Really, how many times do you have to stick your hand in a blender to say that's not good? OK, think of him as a blender. He took your life, and he chopped it all up, and then he just played confetti with it ... and you're talking to him on the phone!? Don't do that anymore. And when he says, 'I love you baby girl,' tell him, 'You don't get to call me baby girl anymore. You don't get to call me anything anymore. In fact, you don't get to call me anymore!'"


Dr. Phil tells Yausmenda: "Just draw a line in the sand."