Are You an Enabler?

An enabler is a person who, acting out of a sincere sense of love, loyalty, and concern, steps in to protect, cover up for, make excuses for and become more responsible for the chemically dependent person. This can prevent the chemically dependent individual from the crisis that might bring about change, and thereby prolong his/her illness. Some common enabling behaviors are:

  • Avoiding problems by trying to keep the peace. Believing that a lack of conflict will solve problems.

  • Denying that the person is using drugs or is chemically dependent.

  • Keeping your feelings inside.

  • Minimizing: “It’s not so bad, things will get better when…”

  • Lecturing, blaming, or criticizing the chemically dependent person.

  • Taking over his/her responsibilities.

  • Protecting the chemically dependent person from pain.

  • Feeling superior; treating the dependent person like a child.

  • Trying to control the dependent person.

  • Enduring: “This too shall pass.”

  • Waiting: “God will take care of this.”

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Teen Accused Of Drinking, Drugging, And ‘Terrorizing’ Her Family Denies Parents’ Claim That Her Behaviors Are Escalating

Tom and Karen claim their 15-year-old daughter, Madison, drinks, does drugs, skips school, joy rides, destroys their property, and physically attacks Tom. When the conversation turns to a car crash (Madison wasn’t driving) she was involved in just a week before visiting Dr. Phil, a tearful Madison denies her behaviors are escalating.

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Teen Claims She’s ‘Counseling’ Her Little Sister Not To Make The Same Mistakes

Teen Claims She’s ‘Counseling’ Her Little Sister Not To Make The Same Mistakes

Tom and Karen allege their 15-year-old daughter, Madison, smokes “dope,” destroys their property and has been charged with domestic battery for attacking Tom. The couple also says their daughter is corrupting her 13-year-old sister, Liz.

Madison says she’s “counseling” her younger sister not to make the same mistakes she has. Dr. Phil plays a video of the girls drinking and partying, but Madison insists “It’s not like that anymore.”

Part one of this two part Dr. Phil airs Wednesday.

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‘Together They Terrorize The Family,’ Says Mom Of Teenage Daughters

‘You Have To Save Her From Herself,’ Says Dr. Phil To Parents Of Teenager In Trouble

Tom and Karen say they’ve lost control of their 15-year-old daughter, Madison. They claim she skips school, runs away, drinks, smokes, does drugs, steals cars, has physically attacked Tom.

The couple receives help from a professional transporter in bringing Madison to see Dr. Phil.

Can this family be helped? Part one of this two-part episode airs Wednesday.

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Teen Whose Parents Claim She’s ‘Out Of Control’ Says She Knows She ‘Messed Up’

Teen Whose Parents Claim She’s ‘Out Of Control’ Says She Knows She ‘Messed Up’

Fifteen-year-old Madison’s parents claim she’s had upwards of 100 encounters with police for everything from running away and stealing cars, to attacking her father. She says she knows she’s messed up, but, “at the end of the day I want to be successful. I want to do good things with myself.”

How does she respond when Dr. Phil reveals a video of her talking about partying and doing drugs? Part one of this two-part Dr. Phil airs Wednesday.

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Teen Accused Of Drinking, Drugging, And ‘Terrorizing’ Her Family Denies Parents’ Claim That Her Behaviors Are Escalating

‘She’s My Daughter And I Don’t Want To Negatively Impact Her Future,’ Says Dad Who Dropped Battery Charges Against His Teenager

Tom says he feels like he and his wife, Karen, are “under siege” in their own home. At night, the retired military officer claims he barricades Karen and their 9-year-old daughter behind locked doors while he stands vigil against their 15-year-old, Madison.

What’s driving Madison to “act out” as her parents claim she’s doing? Part one of this two-part Dr.Phil airs Wednesday.

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‘You Have To Save Her From Herself,’ Says Dr. Phil To Parents Of Teenager In Trouble

‘Together They Terrorize The Family,’ Says Mom Of Teenage Daughters

Tom and Karen say they’ve lost control of their teenage daughter, Madison. The couple claims their 15-year-old has stolen cars, physically attacked Tom, had the police called on her at least 100 times; and is now corrupting her younger sister, Liz. “Together they terrorize the family,” says Karen.

Madison claims she’s “just a fun-loving teen” who’s misunderstood by her parents. Can Dr. Phil help?

Part one of this two-part Dr. Phil airs Wednesday. Find out where to watch here.

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Man Says Teen Daughter Is Behaving ‘Completely Against All The Values That We Thought We Were Teaching Her’

Man Says Teen Daughter Is Behaving ‘Completely Against All The Values That We Thought We Were Teaching Her’

Madison’s parents, Tom and Karen, claim she’s had upwards of 100 encounters with police for everything from running away and stealing cars, to attacking her father. They say the 15-year-old is corrupting her younger sister, Liz, but Madison says her parents are “blowing everything out of proportion.”

Part one of this two-part Dr. Phil airs Wednesday. Find out where you can watch here.

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‘She’s My Daughter And I Don’t Want To Negatively Impact Her Future,’ Says Dad Who Dropped Battery Charges Against His Teenager

Dylan Redwine’s Father Charged With His Murder

Thirteen-year-old Dylan Redwine vanished without a trace in November 2012 during a court ordered visit with his father, Mark, in Colorado. Dylan’s parents, Mark and Elaine, appeared on Dr. Phil in February 2013, where Elaine said she felt that her ex-husband, Mark, was hiding something about what happened to Dylan and confronted Mark, desperate for answers.

Mark denied having anything to do with his son’s disappearance, and although he agreed to take a polygraph test, it was never completed.

In June 2013, authorities announced that Dylan’s partial remains were found near Vallecito Resevoir in southwestern Colorado, about 10 miles from his father’s house. A cause of death could not be immediately determined.

Mark was named by authorities as the lone person of interest in Dylan’s death. On July 22, 2017, Mark was arrested and charged with second degree murder and child abuse resulting in death.

Dr Phil To Guest Whose Husband Allegedy Abused Their Kids: ‘You Can’t Be In That Relationship And Trust Yourself To Make Good Judgements’

Dr. Phil tells Jennifer that if what she and her children claim is true, she’s been dominated by her husband, Joseph, to the point that she’s allowed him to abuse their children – and coerced her into doing the same. “So that means you can’t be in that relationship and trust yourself to make good judgements.”

Tune in to Tuesday’s episode to find out why Joseph claims he and his wife were arrested as “retribution” for a lawsuit the couple filed against their son’s doctor.

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16-Year-Old Claims Dad Dominates And Abuses The Family, Which He Denies

Nurse Acknowledges She Missed Signs Her Own Child Was Dying

Jennifer acknowledges overlooking crucial signs that her 10-year-old son, Dominic, was dying of sepsis. The registered nurse, along with her husband, Joseph, are accused of contributing to the child’s death

“I shouldn’t be a mom,” she says on Tuesday’s Dr. Phil.

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Dr Phil To Guest Whose Husband Allegedy Abused Their Kids: ‘You Can’t Be In That Relationship And Trust Yourself To Make Good Judgements’

Why A Man Says Neither He Nor His Wife Are Responsible For The Death Of Their 10-Year-Old Son

Joseph claims he and his wife, Jennifer, were charged in their son, Dominic’s, death after they decided not to drop a lawsuit claiming the child’s doctor was negligent.

Why does their daughter, Rebecca say she’s angry with Jennifer?

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Nurse Acknowledges She Missed Signs Her Own Child Was Dying

Parents Deny Giving Son An Overdose: Claim Sepsis Prevented Him From Metabolizing Pain Medication.

Jennifer and Joseph are charged with criminal child abuse in the 2015 death of their 10-year-old son, Dominic, who they claim overdosed of hydrocodone because he had sepsis.

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Why A Man Says Neither He Nor His Wife Are Responsible For The Death Of Their 10-Year-Old Son

Couple Is Charged In 10-Year-Old Son’s Death. Why Mom Says Their Other Kids ‘Were Never In Danger’

Joseph is currently in jail on a probation violation. He and his wife, Jennifer, have been charged in connection with the death of his 10-year-old-son, Dominic.

Jennifer says she’s trying to get Joseph set free so her family can be reunited, but daughter, Rebecca, says she thinks he should stay behind bars. This episode airs Tuesday.  

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Daughter Who Claims Father Abused Family Says She Loves Her Dad ‘More Than Anything’