Reed says he used to be controlled by his mother meddling into his life. When the then 33-year-old appeared on Dr. Phil, he said he believed the only way he would ever have a life of his own was when his mother was dead.

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My mom tries to control everything in my life, from what I wear to who I date,” he told Dr. Phil.

Reed’s mom, Margaret, admitted that she was manipulative and crossed boundaries with her son, but said she did so out of love.

“I pay for Reed’s schooling, car, trips – everything that I felt would help him to become the person that I wanted him to be,” Margaret said. “I refuse to let him fail.”

It’s been four years since they appeared on the show. Has Reed stepped up and taken control of his life, and has Margaret backed off? Watch their update in the video above.

On Thursday’s episode of Dr. Phil, watch more inspiring updates. Check here to see where you can tune in.

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