December 11, 2013
Kelly says her daughter, Ellie, also cuts herself to numb her pain. “She recently got mad at me and brought the knife out of her room and said, ‘Look what you made me do.’ She has zero impulse control,” Kelly says. “My daughter has created total chaos. It’s such hostile anger.”
Rob, Kelly’s husband and Ellie’s stepdad, says he has become a referee for their fights.
Another concern Kelly says she has is that Ellie has gained 50 pounds during the last year. “My daughter’s weight is an extremely sensitive subject with her,” she says. “She has been emotionally eating. She binges on junk food.”
During a video that Kelly recorded, Ellie can be heard saying, “I’ve never been this fat. I just want to die!”
Kelly fears for her daughter’s life. “I’m losing my daughter. I feel like she’s slipping away. She’s broken, and I can’t fix her,“ she says, fighting back tears.
Kelly and Rob join Dr. Phil onstage. “There’s so much danger involved in this situation,” Dr. Phil says to them. “Are you concerned for your daughter’s life or just her emotional development?”
Kelly says both. “I’m extremely concerned she could be suicidal,” she says. “She is willing to do anything she can to numb the pain, and she cares about nothing in her life.”
“We’re talking about a girl here who’s being very self-destructive,” Dr. Phil says. “What is it that’s driving all of this?”
“She’s been in counseling since almost 2. We went through a horrible divorce with her father when she was 2,” Kelly says. “She goes berserk — zero to 100 in 20 seconds. And then she will turn into, ‘I’m charming. I have this halo around me,’ and master manipulator.”
“I don’t have a really great relationship with my mom. I lie about stuff. I usually blame most of the fighting on her,” Ellie shares. “I do, sometimes, say I hate her, because I know that that will cut deepest. I’ve called her a bitch and said, ‘Go to hell.’ I’m just trying to hurt her in the moment, because I feel like she’s hurt me.”
Ellie admits that after she broke up with her boyfriend a year ago, she was very upset and took numerous medications, causing her to overdose. “It was not a cry for help. I just, in my own words, wanted to, ‘Get out of things.’ I didn’t want to face reality,” she says. She denies taking Oxycontin and having a drug problem. “They definitely have no reason to be concerned about my drug use,” she says. “I have not taken Xanax. My mother said that I took those things, and she is lying.”
The teen reveals that she has cut herself. “I feel the physical pain, and so I forget about the emotional pain, but afterward, you feel both. It’s really stupid,” she says.
Ellie joins her parents onstage. She tells Dr. Phil that last year, she went down the wrong path, hung out with a questionable crowd and didn’t have the best grades, but she says she’s changed.
“You’re disconnected from this girl, and she’s feeling lonely,” Dr. Phil tells her. “She lost her dad. Now, she’s feeling she’s alienated her mother, because you’re so cold and judgmental, in her eyes.”
Dr. Phil introduces Dr. Matthew Polacheck, program director at the Center for Discovery, a structured, therapeutic residential treatment center that works with troubled, out-of-control teens and their families. He tells Kelly and Rob that the Center is willing to work with Ellie. They agree that Ellie needs to go.
“Until she values herself, she won’t stop putting herself at risk,” Dr. Phil says.
After the show, Kelly and Rob tell Ellie that they’ve decided to send her to the Center for Discovery — but will they stick with their decision?