"I think it's really important for women to know that there is no one else
Marty responds, "You know, being married 18 years, I still learn a lot about her. For instance, she's never really been the touchy, huggy, feely type. I have to learn to deal with that."
"Maybe you don't," Robin explains. "That's who she has been in the past, but it is time for a change, and if that's what you need, then I think you need to ask for that, and accept nothing less than that. But at the same time, then be willing to give her what she needs. I am not necessarily speaking for Erin, but I really think Erin may be at a very vulnerable place in her life."
Robin tells Marty about a very personal event that occured between her and Dr. Phil 14 years into their marriage.
Unbeknownst to her, Dr. Phil heard her say this, and he wrote her a letter. "I have never, ever read this letter to anyone else, but when I thought of you, and the two of us sitting down, I thought, 'I think this might help,'" she tells Marty. "I'm going to read this letter because I really, really think that this really says it all."
"Wow, that was a strong letter. It really came from within," Marty responds.
One of the excerpts Robin reads says, "You can count on and depend on me. While I don't know how you feel, I know how I feel. We have each other. We have Jay. We have Jordan. That's all I want, it's all I need. Other things come and go, I don't care. I will love you happy or sad, mad or glad. The courage you have shown over the last 15 years in many hard times has been a genuine inspiration. You are one of the few people in this world I truly respect. I will be there for you as you continually are for me." She is brought to tears as she finishes reading it.
Marty nods in agreement, and Robin suggests that he go home and write Erin a letter and plan a special evening for the two of them.
Marty plans a surprise date for Erin, and spends the whole day preparing the house for her arrival. He buys her flowers, chocolates, wine, places lit candles and rose petals all over the house, and writes her a heartfelt letter.
Before Erin arrives, Robin checks in with Marty via an Apple iChat and iSight video conference. "Hey Marty, You're looking a little nervous," she says.
"I am very nervous," Marty says. "I feel like I'm 16."
"Like your first date. Well, if your goal was to seduce your wife tonight, I think you've done a beautiful job ... I am so proud of you. I wish I could be there, but I'm glad I'm not. I just wish you so much luck and I'm so happy for you."
Erin responds, "I'm really impressed. You did a really good job," and she thanks him for a wonderful surprise.