She goes on, "The guys my mom wants me to date are like geeky, little four-eyed, skinny twig, 'let's work on computers all day long and make millions and millions of dollars and live in a house that they don't need, to be happy.' And that's like love to my mom " having money."
Alex is most upset that her mom and sister talk about her behind her back. "I have nothing to say about Katherine but good stuff to my mom. ... I go and tell her things that I don't want my mom to know about, but now I realize that she tells her anyway. So, that trust between me and my sister ... there is none, which kind of hurts because I thought we were a long way from that."
She describes him, "He's just a really, really nice guy, and he is cute and he's smart, despite that he didn't finish high school, yet."
Dr. Phil asks Marty how he feels about the situation and if this is the type of guy that he would choose for Alex to date.
Marty replies, "No, not at all. Her and I had a walk on the beach about a week ago, and we really talked about where I think she should go ... and it went really well. You know I can't sit there and physically pound it into her head, I can just suggest to her."
"Did anything your dad say to you make a difference?" asks Dr. Phil.
Alex responds, "Yeah. He was actually the better of the three of them. I was more willing to listen to him than my mom and my sister. I think the way that he took the approach was a lot better and made more sense."
When Alex answers yes, he clarifies, "If you were going to make a list, you would say, 'I want somebody that has dropped out of high school, is doing manual labor, has no future or plan for a future, but won't hit me.' That would be your wish list?"
Alex says no, and Dr. Phil continues, "Let's be honest about this ... we're at a point where you have to be realistic about these things. My concern is that at this point ... I don't see how you are substantially different in your problem solving and problem recognition skills, than you were when you got pregnant ... If I am wrong, tell me how?"
Alex answers, "On some level. There are guys that if you say you have had sex and you don't want to do it again, then they listen to you. My mom and dad don't really know this guy, so how are they to judge him? Yes we have had sex before, but I have talked to him about this and I said I don't want to have sex until I am married, and he said OK."
Dr. Phil responds, "Alex, don't be naive about this. I am not talking about you at this point, I am talking about him. The question is, can you manage this relationship ... should you if you can, and is it realistic?"
"Pretty much. I don't know what to think to make me believe otherwise," Alex answers.
Dr. Phil asks Alex to watch some clips he has put together from past conversations where he addressed issues that Alex would have to face as a teenager with a baby.
Back in the studio, Dr. Phil clarifies, "When you were making the decision to keep Nathan, I was telling you, it's OK to make that decision, it's your decision, but it comes with a cost ... and it does change your adolescence. One of the things I heard you say is, 'Who else is going to want to date me at 15 with a baby?' ... Tell me about that."
Alex explains, "The guys where I'm from ... they don't see a 15-year-old girl with a baby because there aren't many of them, they see her as either a dirty skank, an easy piece ... or they think I am looking for someone to be Nathan's dad. And that's not what I am looking for at all."
Alex replies, "I am not just looking to go out with this guy just to get out of the house. I want to go out because I think he is a really, really nice guy, and if anyone took the time to get to know him, they would see that."
"You may be in a situation that it's just not time for you to be going out at this point. Part of the process of maturity is having to tell yourself 'No, I am not ready for this,' ... I don't want you to feel attacked, but I'm not going to tell you what you want to hear just because you want to hear it. I want you to make the right decisions for you."