Blended Family Trouble, Part 2: Lou and Dina, Ashley

No Excuses
Dr. Phil checks in with a couple struggling to blend their two families together.
Dr. Phil asks Ashley about her cutting.

"I did it a while ago when I was younger, when I was 11, and I did it more than I do now. I don't know what made me think of it ... I know I won't do it again because it doesn't solve anything. It just, as I saw, created more problems, especially when I went into the hospital ... I don't want to go through that again," she says.

"Why did you do it to begin with? What were you trying to achieve?" Dr. Phil asks her.

"I don't know," says Ashley. "There were so many things going through my head, I don't even know what I was thinking about when I did it, I just did it."
"I'm going to be honest with you guys here. I think you're in crisis and as a result, you've got to deal with some truths here," Dr. Phil tells them, pointing out that Lou has only read chapter one of Family First. "Your family is on fire. Why have you only read one chapter of the book?"

"I work about 18 to 20 hours a day," says Lou, explaining that he gets up at 4:00 in the morning and is sometimes gone until 10:00 at night.

"OK. First, that is a huge problem," Dr. Phil tells Lou. "Let me just tell you straight up, you can't do that and expect this family to turn around."
Since Lou has a four-hour commute every day, Dr. Phil gives him his book on tape and on CD. "That's four hours a day " you and me in the car," says Dr. Phil.

Dina is on chapter 10 of Dr. Phil's book. "It is hitting home so much. It makes so much sense to me. And as I've been reading the book, I've been seeing things that I've been doing wrong. And I've been trying really hard to work on those things, but it doesn't happen overnight," she says.

Dr. Phil reiterates one of the messages in his book: "Parents cannot be in denial, parents cannot be distracted, parents cannot be too busy. I didn't pick this title at random: Family First!" He tells Lou: "I would rather have you quit your job and live in a shelter than be gone 20 hours a day and have your family spin out of control ... If family is right, everything else will fall into place. You cannot put them at the bottom of the priority list."