James, Jerry's twin, agrees. "Jerry is in a very different place in life than Jessica is. He's fresh out of high school," he says. "Jessica has two kids. He doesn't have a job. It's just a bad situation to be in."
"James is a jealous jerk, and he needs to get a life and leave me alone," Jerry says angrily. "My sister, Rebecca, has tried to get me down my entire life and needs to go to hell. I don't like my sister at all," he says, fighting tears.
Despite protests from some family members, Jerry says he's following his heart. "We were seriously dating for two or three weeks before I proposed to Jessica," he says. "I knew she was the one. She's the perfect woman for me."
"I am currently living with Jerry's mom and dad at their house with my two children," Jessica discloses.
"Jessica is taking advantage of my brother and my parents," James says. "I honestly believe that [Jerry] had sex with this girl for the first time and thinks he fell in love, when it's just lust."
Rebecca also believes her brother is being seduced. "This is Jerry's first sexual relationship. In Jerry's mind, it's going straight to, 'All right, now that we've had sex, now we need to get married,'" she surmises.
"I have eight other siblings; six of them are against Jerry and Jessica getting married," Rebecca reveals. "I'm not going to the wedding because I don't support their marriage."
"Because we've decided to get married. We've known each other for three years, and we love each other," Jerry replies.
"Have you had a lot of girlfriends?"
Jerry answers, "I've had plenty of girlfriends."
"Is that true?" Dr. Phil asks James.
"Not to my knowledge," he replies.
"No, I said to you I was interested in one of your brothers, but I did not tell you which one," Jessica counters.
"You think that she's flirted with other of your brothers, right?" Dr. Phil asks Rebecca.
"I had heard that she and her sister had flirted with many of my brothers, so her motives for marrying him are very questionable to me," she replies.
"Yes, I do," he replies. "I have lived with them now for a couple weeks, and it's fine."
"Is this your first sexual relationship?" Dr. Phil asks.
"Are you having a sexual relationship here?" Dr. Phil probes.
"Not physically sexual, no," Jerry responds.
"Not really, no," Jerry replies.
"That's the answer I thought I was going to get, and that's the answer that tells me you absolutely, unequivocally should not do this," Dr. Phil says. "If that doesn't scare you, that's like somebody getting ready to ride a motorcycle off the edge of the Grand Canyon: â€˜Does this worry you?' â€˜No, hell no!' Then that tells me they don't know. They don't know what's getting ready to happen. You don't have a home. You don't have a way to have a home."
"Yes," she replies.
"And now you're moving in with his parents. He's 19, and he doesn't know any better. You do. You're 30. This is just wrong," Dr. Phil declares.
Jessica shrugs. "That's your opinion, but OK," she says.
"Yes, that's my opinion, and I'll guarantee you, we could go out on Melrose and stop the first 100 cars. If there's somebody in the audience who doesn't think this is wrong, then somewhere there is a village missing its idiot," Dr. Phil fires back. "Does it bother you to go to the courthouse and get a marriage license with somebody who doesn't have a driver's license?"
Dr. Phil tries another tack. "Do you not see the fallacies of marrying a 19-year-old, inexperienced, unemployed young man?" he asks.
"Everybody has their opinion. I love him, so that's what I'm going with."
"How can you love someone after two weeks?" Rebecca asks.
"I've loved him longer than two weeks, Becca. You just never knew," Jessica says.
"What do you love about him? What do you know about him?" Rebecca prods.
She refuses to budge from her position. "He has friends, and he is able to do whatever he'd like. I'm not holding anybody down," she says.
"If you guys were 40 years old, both of you, and you had traveled the world, educated, good jobs, good careers, and said, â€˜We got in a relationship two weeks ago and we're going to get married in two weeks.' If you were 40 and experienced and mature, I would tell you that was a higher form of insanity that was destined for failure," Dr. Phil warns the couple. "There are things you have to do. You have to prepare for marriage. You have to go through premarital counseling, and have an economic plan and a life plan ... At least, call time out and let me provide you with some premarital counseling to problem-solve some things. What's the hurry? Why do this in two weeks? If you love him in two weeks, you'll love him in two months."
"I agree," Jessica says.
"Are you wiling to call time out and prepare?" Dr. Phil asks.
Jerry shrugs. "No, I'll probably just do it anyway," he says.
When Dr. Phil asks Jessica the same question, she says, "I'm not going to call time out, no. I'm getting married next week."
"I understand that," Jessica says. "I think I have pretty good chances, even though nobody else thinks so."
"What do you think about taking some counsel here, and just kind of getting your ducks in a row before you go forward?" Dr. Phil asks Jerry.
"I don't really want counseling," he replies, "but if she wants counseling, I'm wiling to go to it."
When Dr. Phil asks Jerry if he would consider postponing his nuptials to seek therapy, Jerry says, "If it would shut people up, maybe."
"He's saying he's willing to do that. How about you?" Dr. Phil asks Jessica.
"Sure," she replies.
Dr. Phil promises to arrange premarital counseling for the couple, and they accept the help.