Confidence Course: Chris

Confidence Course: Chris
Dr. Phil talks to a man who still struggles with his confidence, even after losing 200 pounds.
Even though Chris has lost 200 pounds and gotten into shape, he says he still doesn't have the confidence to ask someone out on a date. "I want to be able to go to a bar and talk to women," says Chris. "I'm always the best friend and never the boyfriend." He explains that in social situations, his insecurities make him feel "heavy again" because he has the same internal dialogue as when he weighed more than 500 pounds.

Dr. Phil tells Chris that in order to change his internal dialogue, he needs to "stop, slow it down, and actually write down what you are saying to yourself. That gives you some distance from it. You can look at that and say, 'Oh my gosh! That doesn't fit anymore.' You got a new bod,y but you didn't get a new body image."
Dr. Phil's cameras follow Chris to a bar, where he explains that his greatest fears are rejection, not knowing what to say, feeling fat again, and being intimidated by better looking people.

That evening, Chris meets two women, Danielle (left) and Kathleen. What did the women think of Chris? Dr. Phil invited them to the studio audience to find out.

"I thought he was a great guy," says Kathleen (far right). "He had a lot to talk about. I thought he was great."

Danielle adds, "I thought he seemed like a nice guy."

Dr. Phil explains to Chris, "You hear a different thing inside than you do outside. Both girls would have said yes to another date." Dr. Phil then suggests that Chris asks both women out on dates: "You've got these girls here who say they want to go out with you. Why don't you take one out Friday night and one out Saturday night?"

With Dr. Phil's encouragement, Chris asks Kathleen and Danielle out, and to his surprise, both of them say yes!