Dual Personality

"My horn is my godsend," says Brian, who gets frustrated by other drivers every time he sits behind the wheel. "I just want them out of my way. If they don't, I take my [windshield wiper] spray like that, and I spray them." 


Brian speeds to get in front of other cars, and once he makes his move, he will spray the car behind him with wiper fluid. "That's me telling him to get over, and some people are just clueless," he says. "I don't care about anything, except catching this fool, and I spray ... It's very sad, but it's a good sense of satisfaction."


"This isn't something that you just do reactively. You actually premeditate being pissed off," Dr. Phil says.


"Oh, yeah," Brian replies.


"It's estimated that a third of all crashes are associated with road rage," Dr. Phil states. "And two-thirds of deaths involved with crashes " those crashes are involved with road rage. Somebody gets crazy and starts jerking their wheel around and that sort of thing." He asks Brian's wife, Lisa, "How is he the rest of the time?" 


[AD]"He's perfectly fine, very calm," she says.


"I switch," Brian admits. "I consider myself a gentleman. I open the door for my wife all the time, and take care of people and do the right thing for people, but when I get behind the wheel, I'm a different man. I'm for real."


"And it's really only if he has somewhere that he has to be," Lisa says.


Three gallons of washer fluid are brought on stage, and Dr. Phil points out that Brian goes through that much every week.


"Can I take those with me? I could probably use them!" Brian says with a laugh. "I go through a gallon a day sometimes."

"It's an interesting personality quirk," Dr. Phil tells Brian. "I found a common denominator among the people that I've talked to about road rage, and they all seem to have the attitude that the universe revolves around them. You have the expectation that when you get on the road, it's supposed to separate like the Red Sea, because you are the only one with an agenda. You are the only one who needs to get anywhere. You are the only one in a hurry, and people should just know that, 'OK, Brian's on the road. Pull over.'"


"Pretty much," Brian says. "And I know that speed is a bad thing for me because I did get pulled over by our lovely troopers."


"Do you realize that you have an unrealistic expectancy set?" Dr. Phil asks.


[AD]"Yeah, I do," he says. "I totally understand. The thing I get frustrated with and that I allow myself to get frustrated with is when I see people texting, eating, driving with one knee, and I take that personally, for some reason."


"You have one set to which you measure yourself and another set to which you measure everybody else. Again, it's all about you," Dr. Phil reiterates.


"Exactly," Brian recognizes.


"If you want to change this," Dr. Phil says, "you have to adjust your expectancy set."