Too Eager or Too Many Excuses?

"For every single thing that I'm interested in, there's always something that keeps holding me back," says Liraz. "I studied advertising and marketing communications. Unfortunately, I felt like the business might be a little too cutthroat for me. So then I went to pursue a degree in education, but I was not so happy with the classes. I was interested in becoming a lawyer. I went to different law firms, and I took criminal classes and everything. Then I worked for a lawyer, and it wasn't really what I imagined it would be."


"It's like, 'I want to go to law school, but then I don't want to spend the money for law school,'" says Maggie, referring to her friend. "It's just a back and forth. She has good ideas, but then there's a reason why she can't do it."


"I had experience working in a very formal, corporate environment, but I felt that people were just, too, I guess, focused on paper and files, and everybody just seemed so sad," Liraz says. "I want so many things, and I'm just so eager to work and attain them. Unfortunately, I have yet to be able to recognize the right path."


[AD]In the studio, Dr. Phil lists some of Liraz's excuses that she has for not deciding on a career. "She says, 'I cannot be micromanaged. I cannot be amongst "robots." I need to be around upbeat, expressive, humorous, sincere people or else I'll just die inside. I cannot sit in front of a computer all day, every day. I don't know exactly what I want, but it's not something plain and ordinary. I love law but working as a lawyer is a rough game. I loved architecture, but it takes 10 years. I love psychology, but it's not wise to go into a seven-year program because I have already wasted so much time,'" he reads.


"I'm afraid of anything that's permanent," Liraz admits. "Finding a career is like getting married; You date, like, a billion people, well, not a billion, but you date many people before you decide whom you want to spend the rest of your life with. I feel the same way about a career."

Coach Payton joins the conversation. "I think all of us, as parents, would fear that time when it was time for the child to go make their own," he says. He notes that when he met his wife, Beth, they were barely making enough money to survive. "We didn't, necessarily, at that time, just love what we were doing. We liked it. Certainly, I enjoyed coaching, and yet there were a lot of rough spots, but you kind of had a bigger picture in mind. So, oftentimes, to get to where you want to go, it's not necessarily going to be smooth sailing along the way."


"But you've got to get in the game," Dr. Phil says, adding that when he and Robin were first married, they had little money but did what they had to do to get by.


Dr. Phil asks Maggie, "What do you think?"


[AD]"I just want her to do something for her financial security and on the weekends or at night, pursue her other interests," she says. "I think she needs to get a job and a 401K plan."


Dr. Phil says to Coach Payton, "You talk about character, you talk about toughness, you talk about commitment, but that is an occupation for those players, right? It's what they do."


"That's their livelihood, but these guys, I would share this, throughout their college careers may have worked summer jobs. So there's nothing that keeps you from working a job while you're trying to find a career," he says.


"I worked full time the entire time I went to college, and I held a straight-A average," Liraz says.

Dr. Phil addresses Liraz. "You're too picky," he tells her. "What you need to do is get a job, and if you don't like the job, you've got, then you spend all of your off-time trying to upgrade your job. If you take a job that you don't love, then use that as a stepping stone to the next job."


"I'm definitely trying to do that. That's what I've been doing for the past 10 years. I've been working, and going to school at night and trying to pursue other things. It's just that how much longer can I keep doing that?" she asks. "What I really want to do is find my passion and start pursuing that."


"I said, at the top of the show, that the difference between winners and losers is winners do things losers do not want to do," Dr. Phil says. "And you do not want to get a job for fear that it may waste your time and not be what you really love ... but you're not going to get ahead if you're not swinging. You've got to get up to the plate and do something, because you're in your prime time."


"I don't want to waste it," Liraz says, adding, "I have an interview tomorrow."


[AD]Dr. Phil tells her that she must put on her best face for the interview.


"I do interview them as much as they interview me," Liraz admits.


"You're the one who's interviewing for the job. You're not interviewing them for how exciting they are," Dr. Phil reminds her. "You've got to go in there and get a job. If they offer you the job tomorrow, take it."


"Oh, I will," she says.