First Wives Club: Cheaters

First Wives Club: Cheaters


Dr. Phil gives the women a chance to confront two cheating husbands. It's a fantasy come true for the women, who get to say what they wished they could've said to their husbands as they face off against, "Bob" and "Joe."

Bob is sleeping with five different women. He's also married and has a girlfriend. He says all the women are in love with him and want him to move in.

Joe believes men want three things: a clean house, food on the table, and sex. He says if women would cook, clean, and put out, men wouldn't stray.


"It's something inside of men. All men, whether they want to believe it or not, like sex. Sex is more addictive than anything else," says Bob. "It's the thrill of seeing someone you don't know, like one of you four. And my first thought, most of the time, would be how long would it take me to get you in bed?"

"So you have to act on every thought that you have?" asks Pam.

"No matter what you say to us, no matter what you ask of us, it's not

our fault," he says. "And no matter what you ask your husband, he won't tell you the truth. Your husband will never come to you and say, 'I cheated because of this.' He cheats because it's in him. It's in me, it's in him. Some people act on it, and some don't."

"I don't care what kind of animal instinct that you've got in you that you need sex," says Donna. "What about love? Is there love?"

"That I don't know. I've been married three times," he says. 

"What about your self-worth, your own integrity?" asks Pam. "Both of you, how can you look yourself in the mirror and say, 'I am proud of the man I am. I am proud of the father I am'?"

"I am proud of the father I am. I have great children," says Bob.


Dr. Phil asks, "Joe, do you consider yourself to be selfish by doing what you do, sexually? Because you say that women get this because they don't do their job. If they did their job, you wouldn't be out having sex."

"I believe that," says Joe.

"And you say that you're really good at cheating, right?" Dr. Phil asks. "You know how to pay cash. You know how to do the phones. You know how to do all the things, so you don't get caught, right?"

"Right. It's the thrill of not getting caught, and there's a thrill of while you're cheating that you might get caught," says Bob. 

"You disgust me, you really do," says Donna. "I'm sorry, I don't mean to hurt your feelings, but — " She stops, realizing who she's apologizing to. "I can't believe it. I see what I'm doing," she tells Dr. Phil. 

Dr. Phil shakes his head. "Aren't you amazed, even at yourself?" he asks her. "Here's somebody that typifies your husband and what he's doing, and you say, 'I don't want to hurt his feelings.' Look him in the eye and tell him what you want to say. He can take it."


"I cannot believe your values," says Donna. "I cannot believe that you are going around doing this. You are nothing but a selfish person."


"I feel sorry for both of you because you're living lives that are so worthless, really," says Pam. "Maybe at some point in your life, you could have been good, moral people, but you're not. So that's really too bad."

"You don't know anything about us really," says Bob.

"Yes, I know enough about you as you sit there," says Pam, heatedly. "What don't I know about you? What can you tell me about yourself that would make me think that you're a good person?"

"Everybody makes mistakes," says Joe. "And you learn from them. No one wants to be celibate and be married."

The women are done hearing from the cheaters. "Nothing more. They're not worth it," says Pam.

"I've heard enough. It sickens me," says Heidi.