Shalon has lost a lot of trust in her husband, and is having a hard time forgiving him. "Craig gets very defensive when I bring up his cheating. He always throws it back on me," she says. Shalon believes that Craig blames her for his affairs. "Our marriage hasn't been solid from the beginning. When I needed him the most, he was out cheating on me." Shalon wants to move forward, but needs help getting over the hurt. She turns to Dr. Phil for help.
"I think that's really a hypothetical kind of question," says Craig. "I'm a realist. I don't know where our relationship would be. And I think I wanted to get caught."
Dr. Phil gets right to the point with Craig: "I, frankly, don't believe that you're being fair with your wife. I don't think you're being honest with your wife, and I don't think you're where you need to be in order for this relationship to have a chance ... I don't think you're dealing with this at all." He tells Craig that his rationale for the affair is inconsistent. "Which tells me that you're either not being honest with her or us or yourself or everybody because you're just emotionally confused about it."
"I have her to lose," answers Craig.
Dr. Phil questions how important that really is to Craig because of some inconsistencies in his interviews prior to the show.
"I have a tendency to talk before thinking," Craig justifies.
"I didn't write it all down," says Craig. "I don't have an exact timeline." The audience responds in disbelief.
Dr. Phil explains that he doesn't want to read any more of his inconsistencies because he thinks they're really insensitive to Shalon.
"I was horrible," admits Craig. "I'm admitting that I was horrible, that I took her love for me for granted. I'm admitting I was shallow and selfish, but that's why I'm here, to prove to her on national TV that I love her."
Dr. Phil tells Craig, "You have to stop dancing and get no kidding, bottom line, drop-dead honest about this situation." Dr. Phil thinks Craig has maturity issues with impulse control, since he was having the affair while his wife was having a challenging pregnancy. "That's a difficult time for a couple, but you don't fix that by turning outside the marriage. Those are very insensitive things to think about and do to your partner."
The audience applauds.
Dr. Phil tells Shalon that Craig's affair was not her fault. "You don't own that, he owns that. But you do own what you do about it now ... You need to put the bar very high and he needs to be honest with himself and you."
Turning to Craig, he continues: "Because you can never ever rebuild trust with half-truths, contradictions, inconsistencies, and not being where you're supposed to be when you're supposed to be there," he says, explaining that it's Craig's job to make his wife feel reassured when he's late. "You need to become a picture window. People who have nothing to hide, hide nothing. You need to be in a position where she can find you, know where things are with you, and I think you've got some serious commitment issues that you need to deal with here."
Dr. Phil offers Craig and Shalon counseling in their hometown, to get
Craig and Shalon accept the counseling offer.