Joe turns to Dr. Phil for help.
"Other than that, you're fine with her," says Dr. Phil. "If she just didn't exist, you'd be OK."
Jessica tries to explain why she's a jealous wife. "Look at him. I have a good-looking husband," she says, adding that she's pregnant and stuck at home. "I don't know how to let it go away and not be jealous and insecure."
Dr. Phil asks her why she chooses this. "Your way of being in this world is jealous, accusatory, highly monitoring and smothering. Why?" Jessica reveals she's been cheated on in her four previous relationships. "Did you try to own them like you do him?" asks Dr. Phil, explaining that if she continues what she's doing, she may just push Joe to the point where another woman may get him. Referring to the expression, "What I fear, I create," Dr. Phil tells Jessica, "You need to worry about what you're creating."
Dr. Phil tells Joe that it's an issue of power for Jessica, and that he's paying her off for it. "It is working because you reassure her. You answer the phone, 'Yes I'm here. No, I'm not with somebody. Be reassured. I'll be home soon.' Every time you do that, she gets a fix. She gets a reassurance fix, she gets an 'in control' fix," says Dr. Phil.
Joe says he respects his wife and wants to let her know where he is, if he's going to be late and if he's going out after work with friends. Jessica points out that all of Joe's friends are women.
"I work with a bunch of girls. I can't help it," says Joe, laughing.
Dr. Phil says that he believes [jealous people] have a poorly disguised need for power and control. "I think they're tyrannical. I think they're controlling. I think they're domineering and I think they're completely insensitive to the impact of their actions on their partners," he says. Jessica agrees with that statement, and Joe admits that hearing her say that hurts.
Dr. Phil explains that, at the same time, Joe needs to not reinforce Jessica's jealous behavior. "If she's calling 10 times on the cell phone, turn it off," he says.
Dr. Phil turns to Jessica: "You don't need to be telling a man that you wish his children weren't there. If it comes down to choosing his children or you, you will lose." He tells her to respect her husband. "It isn't every guy in the world who loves his wife enough to volunteer to go on the Dr. Phil show and try to get it out of the ditch."