Obsessive Love: Secrets - Jen

Obsessive Love: Secrets - Jen

After hearing the surprising news that Jeremy may be headed home, Jennifer records her thoughts on a video diary.

 

"Everyone around me is telling me to go, that I'm going to be the next Nicole Brown Simpson, and I don't know what to do," she says, crying. "He will not let me go. He's straight-up told people that he's not going to let me go. He's going to mess with me, and he's going do nasty things. I just know it."

 

Jennifer decides to take the $200 she has and go to her mother's in Iowa. "Even his sister, when I called her to tell her, she said, ‘If you leave your car there, he's going to do something to it.' He will. He'll do something terrible. I know it. He's going to be pissed as hell when he gets here, I'm sure," she continues. "You don't understand," she says, shaking her head and crying, "He'll do anything he can to hurt me. I can't let him do this to me anymore. I'm, like, dying inside. He's sucking the life right out of me ... [My heart] is pounding out of my chest."

In studio, Dr. Phil talks with Jennifer. "When faced with being expelled from the program and knowing how you would view that, [Jeffrey] was apparently re-motivated to try to do a better job in treatment," he tells her. "Do you believe that, or do you think it's just another manipulation?"

"It could be another manipulation, because he didn't even tell me after it was all done that that's what had happened," she says. "He said that they never told him anything like that. He's been doing great the whole time."

Dr. Phil lists Jeffrey's devious behaviors toward Jennifer, including: bugging her phones, installing a GPS tracker in her car, placing a microphone in her car, turning the thermostat up while she sleeps so he can stare at her with little clothes on, taking pictures of her without her knowledge, getting her fired from her job and imprisoning her in the basement. "As you look back on that now, why did you put up with that as long as you did?" he asks.

"I thought I was doing the right thing by my kids, but I'm not because they're being affected by all of this," she says, voice quavering.

"What I'm concerned about is what happens now," Dr. Phil says. "If you decide to shut that it's time to shut this marriage down, if you say that's the only way to avoid the abuse, how do you know you're not going to cave in and go right back to it again?"

"I know because my kids have given me the strength to not do that again," she says. "I'm not going to let him do this to me anymore. I deserve better than this. I'm not going to settle."

Dr. Phil tells Jennifer that she has ownership in problems of the marriage, as well. "You have not chosen his behavior, but you did have affairs " eight years ago " so he had at least some reason for suspicions about you in the future, and then as this began, you took a peace-making approach to it instead of standing up for you and your children," he says. "Why is it different now?"

Jennifer explains that she thought if she moved away from him, things would get worse. "I just wouldn't say anything, and I realize that's not getting me anywhere, that it's just making him realize that I won't do anything, that he can continue on to do these things if I don't stand up for myself," she says. "I just want to move on and be happy."

"Do you think that he will accept that?" Dr. Phil asks.

"No," she says. "I think that he's going to initially be angry, and he's going to try and do things to hurt me. If I have to, I'll have him arrested."