Overweight Brides

Overweight Brides
Dr. Phil talks to a woman who wants to lose 50 pounds before her wedding.
Tara calls herself "fat" and "disgusting." She is also starting to feel the physical effects of being overweight. "I feel like my body has started to slow down," she says. "My back hurts. My knees hurt. I'm 30 and I feel like an old woman."

Her fiancé Chris, doesn't see a problem, but knows that Tara gets embarrassed by her weight. "She was like this when I met her. It didn't bother me," he says.

Still, Tara gets emotional about what her fiancé sees in her. "How could he be attracted to this body? I don't want to look at my wedding pictures and feel like I hate the person that's in them," she says. "It's hard for me to talk about what Chris sees when he looks at my body."
Acknowledging that the taped piece was hard for Tara to watch, Dr. Phil says, "If it's so painful, why do you think you've never really gotten it under control?"

"I think it has a lot to do with denial," she replies. "I can kind of convince myself until I see a picture or see a videotape that I don't actually look as bad as I do."

Dr. Phil looks at the negative messages Tara is telling herself and explains that until she masters Key #1 she'll keep living to her labels. "Don't you call yourself a lot of names? Don't you say things when you get frustrated with yourself?" he asks.

"Yes I do," she says.
Dr. Phil also points out that Tara is an emotional eater who numbs or rewards herself with food. "You're not using food for nutrition. You're using if for medication, right?"

"Right, I am. If I'm having a bad day at work, or something personal in my life is going on, I just need maybe a little chocolate."

Dr. Phil jokes about how well chocolate really solves a problem. "You understand this is a lifestyle realignment that has to happen," he explains.

"I do understand that."