"We've had problems from day one," says Rob. "It's just been one struggle after another struggle." Rob says his biggest problem with his wife is her controlling ways. "I'm basically told where to go and when to show up. It gets frustrating," he says. Rob's father and aunt passed away recently, and he acknowledges the impact it has had on their family. "I haven't dealt with it," he admits.
"I'm responsible," she admits.
"Do you really believe that or is that just what you're saying because you understand that's the p.c. answer for right now?" he asks Deanna.
"No, I believe it," she says.
Dr. Phil addresses them both: "It isn't OK with me for you guys to live this way." To Rob: "You pour a little alcohol on top of it, right?"
"Not anymore," says Rob.
"Have you quit again?" Dr. Phil asks.
"I've never quit before."
"Not even close," she responds.
"I mean, you deserve a better, more peaceful life than this."
"I believe that," she says.
Dr. Phil questions whether she really believes that she deserves better.
"I want that. I believe it," she reiterates.
"No, you don't," says Dr. Phil.
"I've never had it," admits Deanna, tearfully.
"You do not believe that you deserve better than that," he says.
"No," says Deanna, sadly.
"Because you've never had it, you've never seen it, so you just take what's there, right?" he asks her. Deanna nods, wiping a tear away.