How to Turn Up the Heat

Steve explains his 10 commandments to pleasing a woman.


See what Steve does for his wife that Dr. Phil doesn't do for his!


What about foreplay?


Suzanne asks, "Dr. Phil and Steve, after 25 years of marriage, after the children are gone, the humdrum existence of everyday life, how do couples keep the sex hot, to seriously spice it up in the bedroom? It seems impossible after so many years. Please help."

"Is the sizzle gone?" Dr. Phil asks Suzanne and her husband, Mark.

"Oh, everything's gone," she says.

"Sorry to hear it, Mark," Dr. Phil says, laughing. "Why aren't you seducing her?"

Mark starts to explain that they have different schedules, but after seeing the look on Dr. Phil's face, he says, "You're right. I just need to seduce this woman."

[AD]"Thank you!" Suzanne tells Dr. Phil.

"So often, people start being mothers and fathers, and they stop being friends and lovers. You can't do that," he says. "You've got to decide to do it. You behave your way to success. It's like I've said, whether it's basketball, baseball, golf or sex: practice, practice practice!"

"We're going to get some practice in," Mark says, kissing his wife.

Robin says Suzanne has to make efforts as well to seduce her husband and surprise him. She and Dr. Phil have been married for almost 35 years. For Dr. Phil's 60th birthday, Robin made him a music video, mimicking Shania Twain's "Man! I Feel Like a Woman!"

"She did do a music video, and it was hot," Dr. Phil says.

Members of Dr. Phil's studio audience get a copy of Steve's book, Straight Talk, No Chaser.

[AD]See Steve perform live at Radio City Music Hall on March 12, 2011. And Steve and Kirk Franklin kick off their joint Comedy Gospel Tour in Atlanta on March 19, 2011. For more information and tickets, click here.


The Steve Harvey Foundation Gala will take place in New York City on April 4, 2011. This year, they are honoring CEO of Ford Motor Company Alan Mulally, actor and producer Tyler Perry and actor Chris Rock and his wife, Malaak. For more information, click here.