Teen Weight Loss Challenge: Stacy

Stacy
Stacy has lost weight, but worries she'll always feel ugly.
"Do you have any techniques I could say to myself instead of negative thoughts that come out all the time?" Stacy asks Jay, explaining that every time she looks in the mirror, she tells herself, 'God you're ugly. Geez, you're never going to look any different.'



Jay responds, "I think that what you have to do is challenge what you're saying to yourself. Every time you tell yourself something negative, you have to say, 'Is that actually true?' Most of the time, I think you're going to find it's not."


When Stacy seems overwhelmed by the task at hand, Jay reminds her, "Everything is easier said than done, but that's no excuse not to do it ... You've got to keep with it. You've got to keep changing the way that you talk to yourself. You've got to give it a chance."

Dr. Phil asks Stacy, "What is it that's bothering you the most?"


She answers, "Mirror issues. Looking in the mirror and just seeing my same old self and not seeing any different changes."


"If you could wave the magic wand, what would you change?" he presses.


"Everything. The way I look, the way I feel about myself," she says, because she sees a "really fat, ugly girl that will never have anybody."


Dr. Phil tells her, "The truth is this. The person you're with the most is you. The person that is going to ultimately, in this life, be your best friend is going to have to be you. And if you think everybody is being critical of you because you don't look like some media image that gets jammed down your throat every minute of every hour of every day in this country, then you're not even there for yourself. You've got to be your own best friend. If you don't accept yourself, and just decide, 'You know what? God doesn't make any mistakes. I am who I am supposed be, and I am going to embrace and accept that and quit trying to change things I don't control.'"

Jay reminds her to challenge what she tells herself. "You've got to start accepting yourself, and it will totally change everything," he says.


Dr. Phil adds, "That comes from the inside out. I know you're doing what you need to do weight-wise, but this is about your self-perception. It's about key number one, right thinking. And I don't want you just telling yourself stuff and going through the motions. You've got to be mature enough to start challenging that for real. We're not going to let you stop."