Worst Valentine: Stephanie and Tiffany

Worst Valentine: Stephanie and Tiffany

Dear Dr. Phil and Robin:

My name is Stephanie. I'm 32, and my family is worried that I'm single on Valentine's Day. My sister, Tiffany, calls me the "runaway fiancée," and my cousin, Misty, calls me an old maid. I was officially engaged 10 years ago and have had two other guys buy me rings. I broke off each of the engagements. Recently, I broke up with my boyfriend of two-and-a-half years. I'd rather be alone than be with the wrong person.

Dr. Phil and Robin, how do I get through Valentine's Day as a single girl, when my family just won't get off my back?


Dr. Phil addresses Stephanie's sister, Tiffany. "What business is it of yours?" he asks.

"It's not really my business," she replies. "I want to see her happy. I want to see her with kids. She's so good with my little girl. I would like nieces and nephews. I would like my little girl to have cousins, and like I said, her biological clock is getting to the end of the tunnel. It's going to stop."

"What do you stay about this?" Dr. Phil asks Stephanie.

Stephanie says she initially laughed off her family's comments. "As you get older, it becomes a little more of a sensitive subject. Nobody thinks they're going to be in their 30s and be single," she replies. "That's nothing that you aspire to."

"Do you want to get married if you found the right guy?" Dr. Phil probes.

"I would. I absolutely would."

"Well, how come you keep running the boys off?" Dr. Phil queries. "Have you gotten some good candidates, and you've run them off?

"I have gotten some good candidates. I wouldn't say I've run them off. I feel that their feelings for me were stronger than my feelings for them," Stephanie clarifies. "I stayed with them for a long time and hoped it would work. In the end, my feelings just never changed. I didn't think it was fair to them for me to stay in it if my heart wasn't in it."

Dr. Phil turns to Tiffany. "You say, ‘She's kind of an outcast because we're all married, and she's not,'" he observes.

"She comes home for the holidays, and me and my other sister want to do stuff with our kids, bring our families together, and she's the single one. It's kind of hard to involve her and not leave her out when she doesn't have a family or kids," she explains.

Dr. Phil doesn't buy her excuses. "You don't have enough to do," he says wryly.

"How's your life working?" he asks Stephanie. "Don't you have hobbies and things you do? You love your life?"

"I'm very happy. I have a lot of friends. I'm in a graduate program. I graduate in the spring with my master's degree. I'm happy," she replies.

Robin has wonderful gift ideas for single women. "You don't have to have a man to be fulfilled and have a great Valentine's Day," she asserts. 


One cozy idea is a Bedhead pajama set, made with 100 percent fine Italian cotton. "There is nothing more exciting than to go home, and get into beautiful PJs and truly relax," Robin says.


Next, she holds up a Peonia Romantico home fragrance diffuser, scented with a mix of peony, rose and gardenia, which is available at anticafarmacista.com.


"Also on Valentine's Day, you should treat yourself to something sweet," Robin suggests. "Vanilla Bake Shop of Santa Monica is giving you these delicious cupcakes." Stephanie will also receive a copy of Robin's book From My Heart to Yours.


The audience will take home these gifts as well.