Saving Julie: The Final Decision
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A Look in the Mirror
Danny insists that he’s never physically abused Julie and says that she is overly dramatic in their arguments and makes him look like the aggressor. Dr. Phil says that records indicate that he was in jail for a year and a half for being violent with an ex-girlfriend, and that, along with his emotional intensity, may make it hard for some to believe he’s not violent with Julie.
Danny admits, “I get very intense. I don’t even know how I have front teeth anymore — I grind them.”
"Don’t you get tired of that?" Dr. Phil asks.
"I’ve been tired of that for years," Danny says, "but I do these things to prevent myself from being that way."
Dr. Phil plays a clip of Danny from the show, when he turned to Julie and vented his anger.
"That's a man who needs some help," Danny says. After watching a clip of himself crumpling a water bottle in anger, he says, “That’s a crazy guy right there."
"And you think she wants to be with that on a day-to-day basis? You think she loves that?" Dr. Phil asks.
"I don’t think anybody loves that type of behavior [from] anybody," Danny says.
Taking Back Her Life
"No, I do not," she answers, without hesitation.
"So, you’re done."
"And you have no doubt of that?" Dr. Phil asks.
"Absolutely not. I want myself back," she says.
Dr. Phil asks Danny, "Does she have that right?"
"Sure. She can go back to being the little lying whore slut she always was. I got no problem with it," he says. Danny looks to Julie. "Enjoy your life, because that's all you're going to be," he tells her.
"That's a very mature response," Dr. Phil notes. "So, you respect her right to end this relationship?"
"Sure, she can do anything she wants. It’s done," Danny says.
"And you will leave her alone?"
"Absolutely. I will get all my stuff, and I will leave," he says. Danny aims his vitriol at Julie. "Goodbye. Goodbye. You’re garbage. You're such a liar. Embarrassing, you are."
Dr. Phil says, "People have the right to be in relationships and then end them, right?”
"Oh, it’s definitely over," Danny says. He turns to Julie and says, "All good things come to an end, right?"
"Yeah, and bad things too," Dr. Phil points out. "The only thing worse than being in a bad relationship for a year is being in a bad relationship for a year and one day." He tells Danny, "I don’t think you’re an evil guy. I think you're just terribly immature and have a real problem with anger. And I don’t like the way you’re treating her, and I would say that if I had never even met her."
Dr. Phil offers Danny professional help to deal with his anger. "Let me get you some help where you can feel some peace within yourself, because you deserve that. Because when you’re showing this kind of anger outside, you’ve got to have turmoil inside, and you’ve got to be tired of that."
"Very," Danny says, accepting the offer of help.
A Safe Plan in PlaceDanny leaves the stage, and Dr. Phil asks Julie how she's doing.
Dr. Phil commends Julie for standing up for herself and making it clear with Danny that their relationship is over. He says it's important to take precautions going forward because the most dangerous time in an abusive relationship is when the victim tries to leave — a phenomenon experts refer to as separation assault.
Dr. Phil explains that he's been working with the National Domestic Violence Hotline and the National Dating Abuse Helpline so that the experts can put a plan in place to get Julie safely away from Danny. She’ll be taken directly to a safe women's shelter, and no one will know the location — not Danny, not her family, not even Dr. Phil and his staff. During this next phase of her life, Julie will have the opportunity to work long distance with therapist Dr. Kat Derrig-Palumbo, who also will not know her whereabouts. She will help Julie throughout the process of getting her life back.
"Are you prepared to take this journey?" Dr. Phil asks Julie.
"Can I leave right now?" she asks.
"Yes, you can leave right now."
"He won’t find me, right?" Julie asks tearfully.
"He will not find you," Dr. Phil tells her. "I can’t even find you."
Julie thanks Dr. Phil.