October 4, 2017
Tom and Margaret each say their 22-year-old son, Tommy, barely works but always seems to have money. The former couple claims that’s because he’s manipulating them both out of money.
TELL DR. PHIL YOUR STORY: Toxic Relative?
“I used to have money in a savings account,” says Tom. “All us guys have a little cash on the side that their wives don’t know about. Because of Tommy, it’s all gone now. I live paycheck-to-paycheck.”
“I’ve given my son $50,000 over the last five years,” claims Margaret, who says she’s enabled Tommy his entire life. “I’ve invested a lot of money in Tommy, and I haven’t seen any progress, any change or any improvement,” she says.
Over the past year, I’ve given Tommy $800 a month, and he just spends it like it’s water,” says Tom. “I wouldn’t be surprised if he’s getting the same amount of money from Margaret. That’s just the way Tommy is.” Tom’s claiming Tommy pits him and Margaret against one another “to gain a financial advantage.”
Both of Tommy’s parents claim he’s mentally ill. How do they respond when Dr. Phil asks them if that’s true, why do they approach him “in a punitive way?”