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          Life Strategies

          Take Responsibility for Your Life

          October 02, 2002

          Need a life makeover? Dr. Phil shows you how to behave your way to success:

          Define your payoffs, then cut them out.
          You’re getting something from your behavior, or else you wouldn’t do it. Work on gaining confidence — low self-esteem and pent up guilt gives you an excuse to sit on the sidelines. It gives you an excuse to be less than you can be.

          Behave your way to success.
          Your past easily becomes your future because what you fear, you create. If you feel deprived of some experience, or emotion from some one else, give yourself emotional closure. Give yourself what you didn’t get from someone else now. Create what you want out of life. If you want to be loved, be loveable. If you want to get your family interested in your life, get interested in their lives.

          You choose your behavior; you chose the consequences.
          You are an adult now and you need to take responsibility for your actions. You can’t blame your family anymore. You are old enough to do something about your feelings. Your family can’t take this on. The greatest stress in life is to hold someone else accountable for something they can’t control. The only person you control is you.

          It all comes back to the life law statement, “You’ve got to name it before you can claim it.”
          If you are stuck in an unsatisfying life, ask yourself what would make you happy? Write out what you need to hear from your family that you’ve never heard before. Be very specific. Give your list to your family. Ask them to read it, consider it and respond. Open your heart, put the spirit of criticism aside. Be ready to do the same for your family.

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