"My Lover, My Abuser"

June 25, 2012
Sarah is a pretty, intelligent, successful woman with everything going for her — so why won't she leave her abusive boyfriend, Robert? She says he punches her, chokes her, spits in her face, and has even threatened to kill her, but she believes he can be rehabilitated. Is she in over her head? If you or someone you know is a victim of domestic violence, don’t miss Dr. Phil's exit action plan for safely leaving an abusive partner.

Warning: This show contains strong language and disturbing content. Viewer discretion is advised.

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A Violent Relationship

Sarah says when she met Robert two years ago, it was love at first sight — but that love soon turned into abuse. Get a glimpse into a typical night for Sarah and Robert. Plus, learn why Sarah stays with Robert, and what happened one night that had Sarah fearing for her life.

"You just gave me the rationale of every abductor who has killed their victim."

"I Say Whatever It Takes to Hurt Her"

Robert blames Sarah for provoking his outbursts and says that if she "chills out," he won't be violent. He also believes that Sarah may be "addicted to the drama."

"I hit Sarah just because verbally, it’s not getting through to her."

A History of Violence?

Robert admits he has an anger problem, and he practically threatens everyone who crosses his path. His sister, Krystal, shares what she believes may be at the root of his anger, and his ex-wife has a message for Sarah. 

Can Dr. Phil help Sarah find her way out of this relationship?

If you or someone you know is in an abusive relationship and need help, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at (800)-799-SAFE(7233).


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