October 20, 2016
Sheila, a mom of four, says she has spent the last two years coping with her teenage son transitioning into a female.
“It’s like bereavement where you have to grieve for your son and welcome a daughter,” Sheila says.
Sheila says her child, “Joe,” always wanted to play dress-up with girls as a kid and often wore T-shirts over his head to pretend it was long hair. Last year, “Joe” told Sheila and her husband that she identifies as transgender and goes by the name Arianna.
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“At first, I was angry. I refused to go out in public with Joe because of the way he looked,” Sheila admits. “It feels awkward to be seen in public with Joe as of right now. I can just feel people staring; it’s almost like a laser.”
Sheila says her husband does not support their son’s transition and says it’s a phase.
“We do not use female pronouns regarding Joe in the house,” Sheila says. “Joe goes by Arianna, but I call him Joe.”
The military mom says what angers her most is that her child is so focused on transitioning into female, the teen has neglected school and other priorities. The two often engage in daily screaming matches, and Sheila admits she has posted negative comments on social media and has thrown away “Joe’s” hormone pills, which the teen started taking five weeks ago.
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“We got into an argument, I flushed them. Because I told him, I said, ‘I’m done with it. I’m tired of dealing with it. You’re not doing what you’re supposed to do,’” Sheila says. “I’m physically exhausted, mentally exhausted. I told him in six months and two weeks when you turn 18, I’m not doing this anymore.”
Watch the video above to hear Sheila’s candid thoughts about her child’s transition. And on Thursday’s episode of Dr. Phil, Arianna confronts her mother. Will Sheila accept Dr. Phil’s advice to have a healthy relationship with her child? Check here to see where you can watch.