Jody and Mike say they are at odds with their 14-year-old daughter’s boyfriend, Paul. They claim the 18-year-old is jobless, sometimes sleeps in a car without a windshield and has harbored their daughter when she runs away from home. Mike even admits that he almost got into a physical altercation with Paul when he and Jody showed up at Paul’s house looking for their daughter.

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Paul says he’s not the problem. He says Jody and Mike try to control Michelle and they just need to let her have more freedom.

In the video above from Friday’s episode of Dr. Phil, Dr. Phil offers Jody and Mike, and Paul advice.

“Y’all need to calm down in your rhetoric and your behavior here,” he tells Jody and Mike.

To Paul, he says, “If you seriously had any interest in this young lady long term, you wouldn’t be calling her parents’ names and challenging them to fight.”

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See what happens that leads Jody and Paul to engage in an argument with Paul telling Jody and Mike, “You’re the failure of a parent, you’re the failure of a parent. You guys need to step things up, not me.”

On Friday’s episode, see what Dr. Phil suggests these parents do to help their daughter, and why she has a backstage meltdown. Check here to see where you can watch.

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