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          PLAYING Advice For Parents In Conflict Over How To Raise Intersex Child

          Advice For Parents In Conflict Over How To Raise Intersex Child


          July 1, 2016

          When Michelle and Kyle’s baby, Aubrey, was born intersex, with ambiguous genitalia and chromosomes indicating that she was 70 percent more male than female, they say they consulted with doctors and decided on surgery to have Aubrey be female. For the first three years of Aubrey’s life, they raised her as a girl.

          Now divorced and with shared custody of Aubrey, who’s 4, the exes are at odds over which gender Aubrey identifies with and how they should raise her. Aubrey has been living as a boy with his mom during the week, and as a girl with her dad on the weekends. Watch their story here.  

          In a desperate attempt to end this war, they turn to Dr. Phil for help.

          “You have a belief that this child wants to be a little girl. You have a belief that this child wants to be a little boy. You can’t know because Aubrey can’t know,” Dr. Phil says to the parents in the video above. “The child is 4 and the child may be 100 percent one way one minute, and 100 percent another way next year.”

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          He suggests they focus on the fact that they have a happy, loving child. “You have to love that child in the moment. And there should be no ego investment on your part whatsoever as to whether that child chooses to define as a little girl or a little boy in that moment,” he continues. “What do you care whether that turns out to be a little boy or a little girl? What you care is look at the spirit in those eyes, look at the joy in that face.”

          He concludes, “The two of you have a unique challenge before you, and that child needs a unified front between you two. You’re blessed with this child. Meet her where she is when she’s there; meet him where he is when he’s there.”

          This episode of Dr. Phil, “Mama's Little Boy or Daddy's Little Girl: Identity Confusion or Brainwashing?” airs Friday. Watch more here.

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