Rebecca and Evan say they’ve tried everything to parent their 4-year-old daughter, Avery, who they claim is disobedient and strong-willed, but nothing seems to be working. In this clip from season 1, Dr. Phil talks to the couple about age-appropriate consequences for their daughter’s behaviors and says, “You’ve got to pick your battles.”

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