Could Mom Be In Denial About Her Teen Daughter’s Relationship with 38-Year-Old Uncle?
Bridget says she’s not sure what to believe about the relationship between her 38-year-old brother-in-law, Kevin, and her 16-year-old daughter, Grace. She says the two became close after her husband died and Kevin stepped up to lend a hand and help Grace through the difficult time.
However, Bridget says she felt red flags were raised when Grace told her that Kevin put whipped cream on his neck and asked her to lick it off — which Kevin claims not to remember — and when she read the contents of a letter written from Kevin to Grace. So she turned to Dr. Phil for help getting to the truth.
After speaking with Grace, who insists she “would be dead” if it weren’t for Kevin’s support, and Kevin, who admits to having poor judgement but is adamant that there’s nothing inappropriate about his relationship with his niece, Dr. Phil implores Bridget to realize that her daughter’s relationship with her uncle is not emotionally healthy.
“What is going on in this relationship is not in your daughter’s best interest … you need to recognize that,” he says, explaining that Kevin and Grace’s emotional bond is crossing the line to codependency.
“Grace would not have come on this stage and been able to speak to you like she did without Kevin boosting her confidence all the time,” Bridget replies.
In the video above, Dr. Phil doesn’t mince words when he tells Bridget that he’s trying to help her and her daughter.
“I want to help you be a parent to get your daughter’s self-worth off the floor so she’s not vulnerable to being exploited by anybody in any way,” he says. “To do that, I have to help you. You’re the only mother they’ve got, which means you’ve got to take care of yourself, because you can’t give away what you don’t have … But you’ve got to wake up. You can’t be in denial.” He reiterates that Grace and Kevin’s relationship is dysfunctional, and Bridget can’t let it continue as it is.
This episode of Dr. Phil airs Tuesday. Watch more here.