Eight years ago Amber lost her marriage, her home, her job, – and eventually – custody of her children in a divorce she says left her devastated. In the years since her split from ex-husband, Bo, Amber says she was committed to a mental health facility, lost her new business, and has had several run-ins with the law; all of which she says have contributed to her mounting depression.

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“I’m in a mess," says Amber. "And I will say this - being in a hospital and the legal issues that I recently had to deal with; once I spiraled I spiraled quick - and it’s hard to get out. I feel like I can’t breathe, but I also feel like I can’t keep going looking for happiness in the same place I lost it.” The 40-year-old says it’s her parents’ fault that she makes poor decisions because - she claims - she grew up in an abusive home.

Amber’s mother, Vickie, and Father, Larry, adamantly deny that she was abused in any way. They claim Amber is where she is today because she drinks too much and behaves irrationally. But Amber says she wants her parents to “own some accountability” for how her life has turned out.

In part one of a two-part episode airing Wednesday, Dr. Phil tells Amber, “I don’t want you to be a victim, I want you to be a victor. And in order to do that you need to pull your head out, look and see things clearly. You are accountable for you. They can’t fix this for you.”

What does Amber say she needs to do to get her life back on track and be a better mother to her children?

Click here to find out where you can watch Wednesday’s Dr. Phil. Then tune in to Thursday's show for part two of this two-part episode, when Amber’s ex-husband, Bo, weighs in.

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