“We really don’t respond to the events in our life; we respond to what we say to ourselves about them,” Dr. Phil says.
 
That’s why he says it’s important to test your thinking.
 

“There are four criteria for a rational thought,” Dr. Phil says. “Any thought you’re having that violates any one of those four rational prongs, you need to reject it. But more importantly, you need to write down an alternative.”
 
Watch the video above to learn the four questions that determine if a thought is rational.
 
On the episode, "Coping After a Crisis," Dr. Phi speaks with two women who are struggling to cope with difficult times and their loved ones who want to help them to find their joy again. Check local listings to see where you can watch.

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