Brenda recently drove 12 hours to bail her 29-year-old son Tyler out of jail for the thirteenth time. After picking up Tyler, who has been arrested 14 times and through drug treatment nine times, Brenda took him for his favorite meal of ice cream and sushi.
“I totally feel like I failed as a parent,” Brenda says, explaining that Tyler is addicted to heroin, and claiming that she, her husband and Tyler’s biological father have spent a combined $100,000 in the last decade bailing him out, getting him treatment, and paying for his expenses.
“I am 100 percent obsessed with fixing Tyler,” adds Brenda, whom friends and family call “the ultimate enabler.”
Tyler recognizes that his upbringing and his mom’s willingness to continually provide for him have been problematic. “The house was immaculate, the beds were always made, the laundry done, we looked good, and honestly it messed me up a little bit,” he says about his childhood. “It crippled me in a way because I felt like I didn’t have to work for anything. I had no responsibilities. Once I started using drugs, I felt like everything was still going to be provided for me and I didn’t have to work for it.”