February 6, 2017
Kristi’s daughter Haley recently completed a two-month inpatient treatment program for mental health issues. She says she was surprised when she learned that she was coming home after two months and not going to another facility.
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“I guess my expectations were that she would have been there longer getting more treatment, and that there would have been an aftercare plan set up when she was discharged, and that there was going to be family counseling when she was there,” Kristi tells Dr. Phil.
After Dr. Phil explains to Kristi that some of her behaviors were reportedly noncompliant with the treatment center, one of the directors explains to Kristi how her relationship with Haley affected Haley’s treatment and aftercare program.
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“I think Haley did very well with us, but there was still a lot of family discord and chaos, and a lot of interaction between you two that was very toxic,” Dr. Deena Manion, Clinical Director Creative Care Calabasas, tells Kristi. “And I think the therapist was kind of trying to contain the whole family by allowing her to settle down and giving you some education. That was really the family therapy.”
“I’ll work on that. I won’t do that,” Kristi says.
“If she’s calling you four or five times a day, and all this argument is going on about coming home and what’s going to happen and all of this, that disrupts the therapeutic flow, the therapeutic environment in which she’s in because of this outside interaction,” Dr. Phil adds. He encourages Kristi to learn to disengage in these patterns with her daughter. “You are either going to be part of the solution or part of the problem.”
This episode of Dr. Phil airs Monday. Watch more here.
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