Victoria says that her anger is “very out of control.” The 19-year-old admits that she screams, breaks things and even takes out her anger on her fiancé
— who she also says causes a lot of her outbursts.TELL DR. PHIL YOUR STORY: Have a Volatile Teen, Parent or Sibling?
Dr. Phil tells the teen that anger is often the outward manifestation of hurt, fear, or frustration
– or sometimes all three – and that it is often caused by emotions that have been pent up and not addressed.
After Victoria reveals that she was molested and raped as a child and it still remains an open wound for her, Dr. Frank Lawlis, chairman of the Dr. Phil Advisory Board
and co-founder of the Lawlis-Peavey PNP Center
, weighs in. WATCH: Hear How Teen Filled With Rage Speaks To Her Fiancé
“What [Dr. Phil has] already pointed out, basically, is true in terms of her development and her rage developing at that young age, and those kinds of things,” Dr. Lawlis says. “But I think, also, it’s important to note that she, basically, like, poured gasoline on fire. She’s right when she says she loses control. Because of her brain, it’s automatically switched into this rage.”
Dr. Phil continues. “This is a neurological phenomenon. You have the amygdala of your brain, which is the recorder for trauma, and fear, and pain and anger. And this has been written on really strong for you at that time,” he says. “When you flip off your ability to inhibit rage, then that begins to take control, and you're in a place where you say it happens so fast, you don't really know how to stop it once it starts. That's the reason why.”
Dr. Lawlis offers Victoria the opportunity to visit the PNP Center to get set up with a treatment plan.
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