Holli claims her mother, Shelly, has a lot of excuses as to why she drinks. “She has gone through her life blaming other people instead of looking at herself,” she says. Holli’s sister, Hillary, says their mom uses her children, her husband, and even the deaths of her brothers as an excuse for her problems with alcohol.

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“It’s not that easy to stop,” says Shelly, adding, “It’s a disease.” She claims she drinks because her daughters are disrespectful, her husband, John, is an enabler, and alcoholism runs in her family.

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