Have you ever thought about how the words you say to yourself affect your life? Is your inner dialogue negative or positive, and how does it influence the way you view yourself and the world?

“A lot of people go around with this recording, ‘I am unlucky. I am unattractive. I am slow,’ and I believe we’re inviting that into our life,’” Pastor Joel Osteen, author of the book The Power of I Am: Two Words That Will Change Your Life Today tells Dr. Phil on Friday’s episode. “It is much better to turn it around: ‘I am blessed. I am strong. I am healthy. I am talented.’ If you have the wrong ‘I ams’ playing in your life, you’re going to miss your destiny. A lot of people are against themselves, and they don’t know it. It’s in their thoughts and how they talk.”

Osteen says that people should get up in the morning and find three things to be grateful for. And, if they find themselves surrounded by negative people, they shouldn’t let them drag them down.

“A lot of times, you’ve got to rise above [negativity],” he says. “You’ve got to say, ‘I’m not going to sink down to that level. I’m not going to let somebody pull me down; I’m going to continue to rise higher.’”

Dr. Phil points out that people speak 100-125 words per minute but think at 10 times that. “We’ll think a negative thought 10 times more than we actually say it,” he says. “A critic might tell you, ‘You look bad,’ or, ‘You’re not smart.’ They might say it once; you might repeat it 1,000 times during the day.”

He suggest that people change their negative internal dialogue to positive dialogue, and they will see changes in their lives. “If you start saying those [positive] things 1,000 times throughout the day, they really accumulate. And, there’s a physiological component,” Dr. Phil says. “For every thought you have, there’s something physiological that goes along with it as well that starts to trigger things in your body.”

Osteen adds, “You’ve got to say, ‘I’m not going to use my energy to doubt, to worry. I’m going to use my energy to believe.’”