Kayla, Kristle, and Patrick claim growing up, their mother, Sherry, was absent for a lot of their life. They claim she dropped them with their dads, and there were months and years that they would rarely see her. They claim that Sherry is now abusing drugs and alcohol – a claim she denies – which they say got worse when her husband died a year ago.

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“My mom thinks that nobody has lived a hard life as tough as she has, and that’s her excuse for her addiction and her problems,” Kristle says. “It’s the blame game with her.”

Sherry says her husband was her “everything.” “When I lost him, I lost me, too,” she says. “My kids constantly tell me I can only grieve for him for so long. They don’t have the right to tell me when I can and cannot grieve for my husband.”

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In the video above from Wednesday’s episode of Dr. Phil, Dr. Phil offers the siblings advice.
“Sometimes, you have to give yourself what you wish you could get from somebody else,” he tells them.
Hear more in the video above. And on Wednesday, will Sherry decide to reevaluate her behavior? Check here to see where you can watch.