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          PLAYING Tips For Spousal Caregivers To Overcome Loneliness, Stress And Loss Of Intimacy

          Tips For Spousal Caregivers To Overcome Loneliness, Stress And Loss Of Intimacy


          October 20, 2017

          Finding love, getting married and raising a happy, healthy family is a life goal for most people. But if the person you marry is stricken with a serious illness and your primary role changes from spouse to caregiver, how would you cope?

          That’s exactly what happened to Deb who has been married to Rodney for 22 years and has two teenage children. In 2000, Rodney was diagnosed with a rare genetic disorder, forcing Deb to become his primary caregiver.

          “There really isn’t a whole lot of time left for me after I care for Rodney and the kids,” Deb says. “I really don’t remember the last time I did something for myself. I am determined not to let caregiving become my sole identity.”

          Dr. Phil is joined by Dr. Barry Jacobs, a psychologist and AARP caregiving expert, to offer practical advice for caregivers hoping to overcome stress and loneliness.

          “Unfortunately, spousal caregivers have it the toughest,” says Dr. Jacobs, adding that at some point in your life, most people will be a caregiver or the person who needs a caregiver. “It’s not just that the caregiving work itself is so hard, but it’s that the loss of intimacy with the partner occurs very, very often.”

          Dr. Jacobs says that one way caregivers can feel less alone is by reaching out for help to the AARP free helpline (1-877-333-5885, Spanish:1-888-971-2013) which provides information and resources. And, they can visit, a website designed specifically for spousal caregivers.

          “They’re going to be able to get information about local resources in their community, as well as to hear an understanding voice about the kinds of things that spousal caregivers go through,” he says.

          Another resource is Meditations for Caregivers, co-authored by Dr. Jacobs and his wife for AARP. “We decided to write a book that would provide inspiration and emotional motivation for caregivers to help minimize the strains and maximize the possible gains of taking care of a loved one,” Dr. Jacobs says.

          If you or someone you know is taking care of a sick or older loved one, visit, where there’s an online caregiving community. For more information, visit:

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