“I think about discipline as a synonym for instruction, because otherwise, why are you doing it?” Dr. Phil asks. “If it’s just to suppress behavior, when the discipline stops, the behavior is going to come back if nothing is learned.”

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In the video above, Dr. Phil offers suggestions for how to hold a child accountable for their negative behavior while also teaching them a lesson.

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“Talk to them, communicate and make them think,” he says. “That will stick with them.”

On Thursday’s episode, Dr. Phil, parents and experts explore the controversial parenting technique of “parental humiliation,” where parents punish their children, post it online, and watch it explode. Check here to see where you can watch.

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