Brittany and Jeramie say they've been in an on-and-off relationship for 18 years, which they agree has led to a tumultuous co-parenting relationship. “Don’t let them be pawns, don’t let them be a rope in a tug-of-war,” says Dr. Phil in Today’s Takeaway, reminding parents that when a marriage falls apart, what children need most is tranquility and predictability.

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Continuing, he says, “Just ask yourself if what I’m contemplating is in the best interest of my child.

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