“Everybody finds themselves at different positions, different resources, different abilities at life,” Dr. Phil says. “Whether it’s intellectual, physical -- whatever your limitations might be, you have to say, ‘It is what it is. What can I do to maximize what I have available to me at the time?’”

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Ask yourself: Are you challenging yourself with everything that you have to offer, or are you sitting around watching the drapes fade?

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On Tuesday’s episode, Dr. Phil speaks with Bailey and his girlfriend, Harley. Bailey has been a quadriplegic for 11 years and says he has “given up.” He says he loves Harley, but their relationship has been suffering since she became his full-time caregiver, and he feels like he’s ruining her life.

Hear more of Dr. Phil’s advice from after the show in the video above.

This episode airs Tuesday. Watch more here.

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'You Can Be His Caregiver, Or You Can Be His Lover; You Can’t Be Both,' Dr. Phil Tells Guest