Michele says she had no idea that after her daughter, Stephanie, dropped out of college she would still be financially supporting her nine years later, preventing her from exploring her own passions like living in Hawaii and studying marine biology.

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Stephanie says that even though her mother allows her to live at home and mostly pays for everything – including the boxed wines she drinks daily – she is overbearing, suffocating and even calls her names like “useless” and a “worthless waste of a life.”

Stephanie says in order to get sober, she must figure out a way to escape the co-dependent and toxic relationship she has with her mother who she gets into blow-up arguments with daily.

In Today’s Takeaway, Dr. Phil says that insight the key to real, permanent change; and can only be achieved when you take a hard look inside yourself.

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Mom Claims Her Alcohol-Dependent Daughter Needs To ‘Wake Up And Smell The Coffee’