If you and a loved one have a strained relationship, it’s important to listen to their needs, especially if they’re inviting you back into their lives.

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“You should run toward that message,” Dr. Phil says. “And if they’re saying there’s an obstacle and you’ve put it up, you should really consider tearing it down. You may not think that that’s a problem, but if they perceive it to be a problem, what difference should it make? The priority should always be the relationship.”

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On Monday’s episode, he speaks with sisters Paige and Nikki who claim their mom, Leigh, abandoned them as teens and continues to drift in and out of their lives. They say they want to have a relationship with her but only if she stops drinking and acknowledges their pain. Leigh says she wants to have a relationship with her daughters, but she’s not giving up her drinking.
 
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