“Generational legacy is a powerful thing. But so is choice, so is free will,” Dr. Phil says. “You absolutely have the right to choose.”

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He suggests that to determine what you want in life, make a list of what’s happening in your life and decide what you want to keep and what you no longer want a part of.
 
“You need to be working for what you want more of in your life and to eliminate what you want less of in your life. That’s where you start,” Dr. Phil says.

 
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On Wednesday’s episode, Dr. Phil speaks with Kris, who worries about the behavior of her 28-year-old son Justin, whose parenting is similar to what he saw growing up. Watch more here.