“There is absolutely no question that we make ourselves feel the way we feel,” Dr. Phil says. “It’s not in reaction to the world; it’s in reaction to what we say to ourselves about the world.”

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If you’re feeling judged or unaccepted by people, ask yourself, “Am I accepting myself?” Write down what you’re saying to yourself and then determine if those statements are true and if they matter. In the video above, Dr. Phil offers four questions to ask yourself to check the rationality of your thoughts.

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On Tuesday’s episode, he speaks to Molly who says she’s obsessed with her looks. She says she spends up to four hours getting ready to leave the house – then sometimes can’t because she doesn’t like the way she looks. Watch more here.

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