From the outside, Xavier and Melissa’s family of five once appeared to have it all; European vacations, and a nice home, until it ended in divorce years ago.

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Now their two oldest sons, 23-year-old Jonas and 21-year-old Tristan, live with Xavier who claims the boys are entitled, violent, and combative pot smokers who can’t survive without their dad and mom’s help.

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In Today’s Takeaway, Dr. Phil says, “One thing about change is that you’ve got to stop doing the wrong thing before you can start doing the right thing.”

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