“You either contribute to or contaminate a relationship,” Dr. Phil says. He explains that we all have a history, or baggage as some call it, that we carry from relationship to relationship. “If it's full of anger, and bitterness, and hurt, or paranoia, or whatever, then that spills in that relationship,” Dr. Phil says. “So you've got to clean it up before you get in one.”

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Hear more of his advice in the video above.

On Friday’s episode, Dr. Phil speaks with Charles and Sally, a couple whose 12-year marriage is coming to an end. While Sally is ready to move on, Charles says he’s desperate to save their relationship. Dr. Phil and Coach Mike Bayer offer them both advice on how they can help themselves so that when they’re ready to move on to a new relationship, they are their best selves. Check here to see where you can watch.

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