January 4, 2016
Brenda says she fell in love with and married her husband, Don, six years ago – despite their 26-year age gap. But soon after, she claims, her “Prince Charming” began to change, and says now she feels trapped in a “toxic relationship” with a husband she believes may be bi-polar. She claims Don throws temper tantrums, hoards paper and has unpredictable mood swings, and says she’s repulsed by his behavior. Don denies Brenda’s claims and says he just wants to save his family. Watch their story here.
In the video above, Dr. Phil offers both Brenda and Don advice for fixing their troubled relationship.
“You are a paper hoarder, which means you have some obsessive compulsive tendencies driven by anxiety and until you deal with that, you are going to be highly agitated when somebody messes with your world, because you use that structure to maintain control,” Dr. Phil tells Don. “That’s nothing to be ashamed of; it’s just an issue. But you can’t change what you don’t acknowledge.”
To Brenda, Dr. Phil says, “You need to pull your head out of the sand and recognize that you’re in a marriage that is toxic. At this point, you married into it with blinders on. You’re sitting back judging things you knew about when you got into this … so you have to own that.”
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