Mike admits that he has gotten into physical altercations with his girlfriend, Keirsten, in the past. He says that they are both filled with anger and that she has come after him and he has been afraid of her.
He says he has defended himself by hitting her to “calm her down.”TELL DR. PHIL YOUR STORY: Conflict so big it needs a Dr. Phil solution?
After Dr. Phil reviews some of the allegations that both have made about the other, he tells Mike, “You don’t ever, never, ever, put your hands on a woman in anger, ever.”
In the video above, Dr. Phil gives his thoughts on why some people become violent toward another person.
“People resort to physical violence when they run out of socially acceptable ways to express themselves. And so out of frustration, you lash out,” Dr. Phil explains. “If you’ll calm down and stop doing that, then you can say, ‘I’m going to stop going over the top, and we’re going to start dealing with the relationship issues here.”WATCH: Why Woman Says She Doesn’t Want To Leave Boyfriend Who She Claims Abuses Her
And, Dr. Phil says even though Keirsten may provoke Mike, using violence is never the answer.
“Because you do the things you do, it overshadows everything she does, and she gets a free pass,” he tells Mike. “You’re your own worst enemy here.”
On Monday's episode
, Dr. Phil has advice for this couple on what he believes they must do if they want to make their relationship work. Is Mike willing to change? Check here
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